On a business trip this week, I had the opportunity to grab happy hour with an old friend I hadn’t seen in about three years. We talked about life on the campaign, our careers since then, and life in general. Over beers in a trendy new spot, we rolled right into the rhythm of an old friendship. There was laughter, jesting, harassing another friend to come and join us, and discussions of politics and pop culture.
At one point, I made a comment about how beautiful our waitress was. He stopped, looked at her, and then said, “eh.”
I was SHOCKED.
This girl was stunningly beautiful. She had short cropped hair, but her skin was flawless and tan, her features petite, and she had eyelashes that went on for days. The moment I saw her, I instantly measured myself against her and found myself lacking. Such a stupidly normal chick thing to do, huh?!
When I looked at him and questioned his sanity, he just shrugged his shoulders and that’s when I realized that guys and girls view beauty in drastically different ways.
At one point years ago, I was quite a bit heavier. Thankfully, I gain weight proportionally and I’m tall…when I was younger, these extra curves made me feel very insecure, but as I got older, I grew more confident in spite of my weight…and I started getting attention from guys. Now, I would look at magazines and watch tv as much as anyone else and I knew that I did not have a killer body…but that really didn’t seem to be an issue for guys. I was told that I was funny and fun and that made me feel great. However, I DID NOT FEEL PRETTY AT ALL.
I find it fascinating how the sexes are wired so differently…I’d always assumed that beauty was beauty. But that just isn’t the case and we’ve got to stop comparing ourselves and judging ourselves and other women. It’s not fair to them and it’s not fair to us!
Have you ever had a conversation with a guy about what/who they find beautiful? Ever have any funny disagreements like this one?