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I Can't Sit Still

I don't know about you, but sometimes I get so excited about something new that I want to do ALL THE THINGS and do them RIGHT NOW! But I'm also in a season where I realize that slowing down and taking a breather is a good thing. It's Spring and the sun is shining here in Southern California...I need to remind myself to soak it in and experience renewal rather than just relish in the rush of daily life.



My mom is in a book club with a number of women, one of whom is in her mid-80s. She recently decided to move, so my mom threw her a going away tea and invited all her friends. She shared with me that not long after the party, she was tickled and stunned to find that the elderly women had all sent her thank you notes…simply for inviting them to a lovely event.

What I love about these notes is the sweet handwriting, the heart the letters convey, and how much they appreciated all the little details of the party. And what’s truly beautiful is that they are saying thank you for the invitation to the party, but also that they were saying thank you to my mom for throwing their friend a going away party.

I was so charmed by the letters.

And also sad that our generation has really seemed to have lost the art of saying thank you.

I love a handwritten note and I try my darndest to send notes after birthdays and for occasions where they are warranted. And I also totally fail at times, too. But I have the best of intentions. However, I know some people who just don’t have the first instinct to say thank you or to send a personal note. And it makes me sad. It makes me sad that they are missing out on an expression of gratitude and also the practice of spending time thinking of someone else.

The world is so small and our life is so short that gratefulness is really the one thing that should tie us together.

Agree? Disagree?


  1. priscilla says:

    Totally agree. I am trying so hard to instill the “art” of writing thank you notes in my children. The people who receive them are almost shocked to receive a well written note from a teenager.

  2. How sweet. It’s amazing how uplifted we get when we get notes of appreciation… a friend of mine texts me any time we have them over for dinner..she says, “Thank you for loving us” and yet I’m thankful she lets us love them. It’s awesome when people receive love.

  3. Oh how sweet! I totally agree, and it’s something I’ve been wanting to improve on but keep failing so miserably. I wonder how I can make it easier – I’m trying to always have notecards on hand, stamps, etc. Addresses, whatever. I often need to streamline things to have time to get to them and this is something that’s really important to me. Thanks for the nudge! xo

  4. Totally agree. We had to always write thank you notes growing up starting as young as when you learn to right on that lined paper with the dotted line in between to show you where the lower case letters should touch. We were never allowed to play with our toys until our letters were written. People think its strange now, but when I got the best job of my life, working for the Secretary of the Navy, (Go Navy!) I was told later that it was between me and another candidate and the fact that I followed up the lengthy interview process with thank you notes to everyone pushed me to the top! How grateful am I now to my mom for making me write thank you notes!

  5. Agree – love thank you notes.

  6. i want to be friends with these ladies. remind me to tell you about my friend who’s marrying a guy who wrote her a thank you note after each of their first few dates!

  7. My mom drilled into me the importance of sending Thank Yous after receiving gifts but I am always impressed by people that send thank yous after attending a party or dinner. It’s something I think to do some of the time. I don’t want to contribute to the lost art of personal cards!

  8. Rachel Reeves says:

    I love this post, JJ!
    Actually, I think that this post can somewhat tie into your post about parenting.
    I think that the art of note-writing/showing appreciation/saying thank you is missing from the parents/youth of America (large, sweeping statement, but I dare to say it) because, yet again, we don’t have time.

    If I am learning anything from spending time with the older generation and going through their lives belongings, it’s that they were a simpler generation. Since our grandparents and the generation before that didn’t have as much or do as much (in terms of things to be involved in) they had time on their side. They weren’t scurrying to 4 things a day, so the idea of sitting down with a pen and paper wasn’t overwhelming. They had the time to remember and think to do it because they weren’t bogged down with so many other obligations to remember.

    At least that is my thought.

    Love this! Thank you for bringing it up-I think I’ll write some notes this afternoon, thanks to you!

  9. I am a huge proponent of the thank you note. Partly because I myself love getting mail that is not bills and partly because I was raised to understand the importance of the thank you note.
    I still send them, often actually, and love it when someone thinks enough to send one back!

    p.s. your moms book club ladies sound like my kind of women!

  10. So true. As with most things, it’s the attitude behind the action that counts – and that shows. Writing a thank you note grudgingly is not a joy or a gift. But writing one simply to show gratitude and bless someone? That is something to celebrate – and emulate.

  11. Oh those are so sweet! They remind me of my grandmothers. A well-written well-timed thank you note is an amazing gift and soul-brightener. I do write them, but probably not as often or as thoughtfully as I should. GREAT reminder.


  12. Stacey says:

    I just put a hand-written thank you note in the mail this morning. Funny to think that I was feeling a little worried that I might be perceived as “weird” for sending an actual card in the mail to a same-age peer. So much is communicated via text and email these days, and oftentimes nothing is said at all. So it was fun to read your post today and to be reminded of how wonderful it is to receive an unexpected note of thanks in the mail. Hopefully mine will be received warmly, just as all of these lovely cards were received by your mom.

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