Every now and then, I have an epiphany about life.
I’m not a plotter, planner, or big feelings processor, so when things hit me over the head, I’m always surprised.
I guess that’s the point of epiphanies.
Not too long ago, I was talking with a single girlfriend of mine. We were going back and forth about the trials and tribulations of 30-something singleness and how hard it is to meet good men. The conversation started going down a sad road for her and as upbeat I was, not too much was going to encourage her out of that funk.
Being a solution-oriented person (enneagram type 8, anyone?!), I tried to offer options on how to meet “the one” – most were shot down.
I shared some experiences that to me, felt really fun and social – she wasn’t interested.
Finally, out of the blue, a question popped out of my mouth, “are you even who you want to be before you meet the man of your dreams?”
And a thought straight up walloped me over the head:
I’m who I want to be.
Somewhere along the way, my family, friendships, work, life experiences, and faith prepared me for this moment. Sure, I’m still single…but I’m ready.
I’ve built a life for myself that I thoroughly enjoy. I’m an entertainer and homemaker. I’m adventurous and fun. I’m romantic and flirtatious. I’m silly and crazy. I care deeply for the people in my life and would do anything to help someone in a bind. I listen and also enjoy a good discussion. I am wise and still learning. I have an open heart.
That moment really surprised me, but I haven’t let the thought slip away. I have been so damn encouraged and I hope all my single sisters are similarly blessed with an epiphany just like this!
Thanks to the incredible Kelly Sauer for capturing me just as I am (again!)…she stayed at my house while I was in DC, and though I feel cheated because I spent less than 24 hours with her, I am honored that she pulled out her camera for a couple of minutes. Kelly, thank you for sharing your gift with me!!!